Ex-depression: Expression of depression

What a title? Some of you might be thinking it. Right? Be serious, it is about word the depression and the feeling depression. ‘Not funny… it takes guts to reveal it. Someone go through it and then you’ll get it. Well it’s just a cheap publicity stunt.’ And lots more opinions. And Here take mine. How come all of them remember about their harassments when their career is getting new lows? “Depressed about being depressed!”

Two perspective from both Positive and Negative sides:

Negative: Some celebrities (if you know who I’m talking about!) only came to media to talk about her/his depression and remembered her/his choice just before the release of the film. What a great timing! Movie will surely earn at least 100cr., now. If I am sucking at what I do, let’s tell people how depressed I am. The new trend is here, tada!!

Positive: They doesn’t suck at what they does… depression is a reality and there is still a stigma attached it. You won’t understand what impact this would have on the people who are actually going through it. Instead of neglecting it they might now dare to speak about this problem, accept it and work towards the cure. and I remember it once you only told me that if celebrities highly depressed and they take on pills. How come you suddenly feel that this is a publicity stunt?

Negative: I know and respect what she is going through but this time I am seeing it from the other angle too, and trying to put 2 and 2 together. All these things just before the release of their movie has definitely got a lot to do with it. Being depressed and selling your depression are two different things. Choices, depression or empowerment doesn’t appear on the front page of any magazine! It’s almost sounds like saying… I choose to brush my teeth or not… I choose to eat my food or not… these are not the choices that are denied nor do they define anyone.

Positive: But even if they tried to “sell” their depression it’s a help to those who are suffering through it. So eventually this will have good consequences. Have you been waiting for the future so that you can make a choice between drinking Iced Coffee and Cold Tea?

Negative: No please don’t use such issues to make me a choice between drinking Iced Coffee and Cold Tea. I loved it anyway! People will argue that we can choose, thing is that all we just have to accept the consequences. True. I am free to cut off my arm, too. Come to your point, How is it a help? Watch “the video” it’s is far away from reality and so much disturbing at a few points. If a girl in depression would watch it, I am sure it won’t do any good to her.

Positive: Why deviate it to my choice… I didn’t like it either… but the depression thing is different… see I’ll tell you how it might help. You know in our society if you are depressed people will make a big deal out of it and think that you are mentally unstable but if I feel I suffer from depression I would not hesitate much in talking about it because depression is something which happened to someone as successful as celebrities and the fact that she is still doing well proves that it’s not a mental sickness and is as common as any other disease that can be cured and you can be normal again. You won’t be tagged as ‘pagal’ thereafter because if you are a pagal then so is celebrities. And we know the fascination we Indians have towards stars so don’t get started over who is celebrities and all that.

Negative: But my point is if you are depressed go to a doctor don’t use media as a platform for your publicity. And moreover if it comes out just before a movie release, then it’s high time for getting the clue that why has this depression stunt came out? Yes, already whole country knows that celebrities are depressed but coming up on a national platform just to show tears is definitely not done. News channels are meant for news but not for laying platform for movie promotions. It’s high time media should understand their responsibility on what to show and what not to show. There were a lot more depressed people in B-town who never came on camera to tell their stories. If you remember some like Jiya Khan, she was so depressed that it resulted in a suicide, but she didn’t have a movie to release around that time, hence she did not get a platform on national television. Let’s think it this way. You might be correct, here I am not talking about what is needed for depression patients. And people who are so depressed will definitely not be moved by a TV program. I am talking about today anything and everything has become so important about celebs which actually is not. And we must check the track of that particular one, before every movie release, they finds her/himself in a big controversy! Get over it! High time! Audience is not stupid.

Positive: A doctor? How do you know that depressed people will not be moved by a TV program? Whatever the celebrity does is his or her life. You have the choice of not watching it. You are no critique to analyze the entire situation. How sure can you be that this is a publicity stunt? Have you ever been depressed? Stop going on and on about things you don’t understand. Do you have verified information? See, your point of view is not wrong. But when someone places their views over yours accept them. If you think you are right, they are not wrong either. And we are no one to judge how things are. The views you presented above are not balanced. A journalist needs to be neutral, talking from both the sides. (We’re not a journalists) They are genuinely in depression, they chose to come forward and talk about it. All of us tend to take things so negatively these days that we forget the essence of it. Men already have the choice of doing what they are doing, women still suffer. We are not a weak that a video has to tell our women what to do. We have made our choice long back, we didn’t and patriarchy is a result of it.

Negative: I am not targeting any personal here I am just talking about the way media is being used. If I was really depressed it would not even strike my mind that I would go to a news channel and talk on television and rather I would have seriously gone to a doctor or anyone with whom I would feel happier. And about the video itself said it was their choice to do it or not to do it, but if they had done it, that obviously becomes a sign of acceptance that they are fine with the script. I know now this whole discussion can turn towards the freedom of expression and all and again the same points that it was on the viewers whether to watch it or not, I completely agree with it. And no one is saying that they were not under depression or just did it as an act. Again I would like to draw your attention to the argument which I am putting up since the beginning of this conversation that – why depression episode just before the release of the movie – why are there controversies always before the release of their movies always. For celebrities media has just become a packet of spice (“Masala”), which they would not hesitate to use whenever they want to create hype over a certain issue. I am not even saying that being a feminist is wrong, but if you are a feminist, get to the basic concept of feminism and not be a feminazi. Just feel “hell annoyed”, when such things come out in media and directly or indirectly wo-men are blamed for everything as if wo-men were responsible for every negative thing happening in the society with the wo-men. It is high time we must open up our minds and look into these things closely and “I do so”. On the point of being a critique, I say that, if the freedom of expression give someone a right to act in a movie or produce it, the same freedom of expression gives me a right to criticize it to the core, “if it hurts me anyway”. And yes, I do accept your point of view too, you have right to have your opinion, and I just telling that what is mine. I completely respect what you think, what celebrities thought and all of those who are in favour of it. If I would get depression I would rather go to a doctor than going to media. The fact is they are act-ors. Depression is the new fashion in town now. Lets see who is next in the line!  See, I can make things less complicated by these lines. Thank you.

What’s the basic difference between a some argument with logical reasoning and a knife!?
The knife has a point! and it has a logical deduction too to the end of the cutting edge day.

So copious Readers, what kind of laughter, there’s the kind of things that “makes you go hmmm”? huh?  Strange and meaningless talks you talk when you’ve nothing to talk about. Great point about boredom. That is why I found it as default brain space.

The negative is me and the positive is a friend. Maybe, by what their content say, you think the opposite. I’m just trying to cover up here to save a friend. Sorry my friend, I have to reveal it (Because I chose it! Made right choice. Isn’t it?!). Because “I think” we made a completely random, an awesome conversation that might people need to know. I don’t care if I get any punishment for it either 😛

Mean while readers might be thinking “Feeling like seating in some editorial room of news publication.” Anyways, Thank you for wasting your time and reading it.

Expressions from fingertips

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It’s been a decade on internet and these are the emotions I’ve mostly used. In fact, it is bragging and boasting both at the same time to say I’m known by them. Goes with saying that still there are some applications like WhatsApp… didn’t added to destroy hours in a day and life to my skills on avoiding verbal communications. But still I’m happier than happy.

You know you are in Ahmedabad when…!

  • You realize the city you are brought up in will assume prime importance, as it tends to grow on you.
  • You enjoy monsoon seasons by just opening your room window.
  • Somebody says “Amdavadi atle haramzadi”. (and yes, that boiling blood inside you!)
  • Your parents have no worries about your night outs.
  • You speak to each dog you pass… by name… and s/he wags his tail at you.
  • You get 10₹ copy and 400₹ coffee on the same road.
  • You see those unknown Streets, Pols with artistic designs.
  • You taste delicious food of a chef in restaurants/hotels/dhabas who’ve no hotel management degrees.
  • People celebrate with food – and it’s more than just for nutrition, health or just filling the belly.
  • You find dalwada for the rains, Aamras for summer, fafda-jalebi for Dussehra, Undhiyu for winter…
  • You don’t even mind when people from other states give Ahmedabad a Foodiefied tag.
  • When a gourmet’s paradise, a hub for gastronomy, RK or Jay Bhavani vada pav, Karnavati dabeli, Dakor gota, farali buff vada, Honest bhaji pav, Continental/Indian/Chinese food at Choice, Havmor ice-creams, juice and snacks at Shambhu’s Coffee Bar, the exquisite Gujarati thalis at Vishala, Rajwadu and Gordhan Thal – these are a few names which have ability to appease your taste buds. (Which actually, tends to be on the the most mind-boggling variety of food and sweeter side of the Ahmedabad.)
  • Two things are always on the streets of Ahmedabad any time of the day or night – Food centres and dogs.
  • You know all seasons “almost winter, winter, Summer, still summer, construction and Monsoon.”
  • The biggest business in town – start start-ups, private/public Limited companies or sell a delicious food items.
  • There are more Pvt. Ltd. companies, food joints in the city than hair on your head.
  • You’ve never had grain alcohol.
  • You write a check on the wrong bank and it bothers you very badly or it covers you anyway.
  • You won’t believe your eyes when you see the lane (called Khau Gali) in the morning (when it is desolate and empty) and then see it come alive in the evenings.
  • You cannot wait to show the real Ahmedabad’s humble beauty to the non-residents, in all glory.
  • You stop to wonder that Ahmedabadis suffer from any-street-food-withdrawal symptoms every now and then.
  • An isolated small shed where a food item is cooked well, becomes famous without having any great infrastructure or ambiance to attract food lovers, for which there is absolutely no scarcity!
  • Two elders start that nostalgic talk about how they were in two adjacent home of the same societies, or were in two buildings of the same area, and how they used to roam around the awesome Ahmedabad, and you feel like going back in time when going out with friends did not mean AlphaOne/PVR/Iscon/10 Acres/City Gold/Wide Angle/Drive-In.
  • You hear a previously unheard of area ending with Nagar, Pur. Enough said.
  • You keep arguing and fighting with your friends from the other part of Ahmedabad, as to whether east Ahmedabad is better or west Ahmedabad, without any meaning anything you say. Because you already know Ahmedabad is too good to just a part of it, when you have an opportunity to love the whole of it.
  • Its takes more time from Ahmedabad airport and/or railway station to city than from Mumbai airport and/or railway station to Ahmedabad.
  • You can’t remember the roads no matter how hard you try.
  • You find yourself drawn to S.G., C.G. Road or on a national highway every day.
  • Crossing two or more lanes in a single lane-change is considered “going with the flow”.
  • The faster you drive through a red light, the smaller the chance you have of getting hit by traffic policemen.
  • Distance just not defined in terms of time, but two different measures while going and coming back!
  • When asked how your trip was to any exotic place, you say, “It was different.”
  • Nothing is at your walk able distance capacity.
  • The ideal idea of a traffic jam is twelve cars waiting to pass a tractor.
  • When you found yourself lost and the person suggest you to go Central Bus Terminus (Lal Darwaja) – Because according to him/her, that’s almost the only easiest way to find where you exactly are and now you could move, wherever you want to move in whole city.
  • “Okay so I took a right, then a left, then left again, then I came to a circle from where I took the turn on the right and… is that the same tree I passed at the beginning of my ride? What?!” this situations quit normal in the city called Ahmedabad.
  • According to your mom, Khakhras, theplas should be/are at the top and best in your travel food list.
  • You can start your conversation and make friendship with anybody by just saying “કેમ છો ?” (Kem cho?). Yes, Ahmedabadi are the friendliest people you ever could found.
  • One side of the road has heavy traffic from 8-11 A.M. and the exactly opposite side from 6-9 P.M..
  • The road you took in the morning is all fine but is dug up beyond recognition by the evening.
  • It is normal to see an old man riding through town on a riding bicycles or any vehicles.
  • When 3 year olds near you communicate in three languages! Gujarati, Hindi and English?!
  • A Gujarati person tries to speak Hindi way too fast.
  • People call everyone older than you “ભાઈ ” (bhai), “બેન” (ben). Still. Not uncles and aunties!
  • “વહાલા” (Vahala), “બકા” (Baka), “દિકા”  (Dika), “બેટા” (Beta) are terms of endearment the same as “honey” “sweetheart” “dear”…
  • “some” don’t use turn signals because everybody knows where they’re going.
  • Your school/college classes were cancelled because of bomb threats, heat but not the cold.
  • You’ve ridden the school/college bus for an hour each way.
  • You’re born on July 3 and your family receives gifts from the local merchants because you’re the first baby of the year.
  • Your parents and grand parents attending sort of informative seminars, Gujarati Dayro, Bhajans, at a packed halls, grounds or any of the temple or at clubs. while your friends are attending an equally packed Ahmedabad palace grounds to get sunburnt, or any other music festivals and both are cursing the same time deadline.
  • We mind our own businesses. Like seriously!
  • Your “Vacation” means going to the family reunion. In weekends.
  • The local paper covers national and international headlines on one page but requires, 3 pages for sports, 5 pages for advertisements.
  • Night-life strictly sticks to the night. Especially during the festival Navaratri. Quite literally.
  • The signals are so long the rickshaw driver had time to get out, clean the wind shield and smoke a cigarette.
  • Auto drivers don’t come where you want to go but you go where auto drivers are willing to take you!
  • You know there are more real estate based advertisement papers than total number of newspapers.
  • Some Ahmedabadi’s morning starts with some radio stations. (Clarification: I don’t know any) But Still.
  • Public transportation is overflow with most of students.
  • At a times, you think river front garden is “nature”.
  • You find yourself alone on your vehicle with defining your own definition of freedom.
  • When somebody say food is their first and only priority and you keep telling them it’s scientifically incorrect.
  • You do awesome weird stuff and do not update it on social platforms.
  • You say “the city” and expect everyone to know you mean west Ahmedabad.
  • You get a thought of starting a start-up or even any social meet-ups.
  • The social meet-ups organize at the coffee shop, the garden or in any play ground.
  • Aunties in your neighbourhood scream at the top of their voices asking you to play in playgrounds, and go poker face when you ask them to find a place for you to play there, if at all there are any playgrounds left in the locality.
  • You’ve fun arguing with Ahmedabadi policemen.
  • You’ve that extra born right to annoy your neighbours.
  • You realize this is written by just another Ahmedabadi.
  • You get to know you actually are in Ahmedabad.
  • When you know there’s a lot other things remains unmentioned here. And that’s probably fair because one just can’t sum up 464 km² city with few lines.

To the outsiders,
Oh… have I tempted you enough to plan a visit to Ahmedabad yet?!
Aavjo to pachi 🙂

You know you are in India when…!

  • You realize the nation you are brought up in will assume prime importance, as it tends to grow on you.
  • Your home is where the heart is.
  • You hear 5 languages in 5 minutes.
  • You hear “Suprabhat” at 7 AM and hip-pop at 11 PM.
  • You experience more than 3 weather changes in day!
  • You dial the wrong number, and talk for 5 minutes anyway.
  • You find people who fond of eating and are willing to experiment with different cuisines.
  • Seasons changes and so does food items around you.
  • You don’t know a stranger.
  • You keep arguing and fighting with your friends from the other part of the country, as to whether east India is better or west India or north India or south India, without any meaning anything you say. Because you already know India is too good to just a part of it, when you have an opportunity to love the whole of it.
  • You can offer yourself a full 15 minute enjoyment package while stuck in traffic signals.
  • You ask for the distance, you get answer directly converted in hours or in minutes.
  • You can name everyone you graduated with.
  • You can name at least 4 Indian Premier League teams.
  • You see scenarios something like – one hand on steering, one finger out window, other on horn, cradling cell phone, mind on radio game, setting up wind shield, banging head on steering while stuck in traffic, cutting across all lanes of traffic, driving at 40 on the interstate in the left lane with the left blinker…
  • All the festivals across the state and the country are named after a fruit, vegetable, plant, grain, animal or god.
  • You realize that there is different people around the Indian states and/or even NRIs enjoying their food together.
  • Everything you know about the Ramayana and the Mahabharata and the Civil War you learned watching TV.
  • When auto drivers don’t come where you want to go but you go where auto drivers are willing to take you!
  • You know there are more real estate based advertisement papers than total number of newspapers.
  • You realize that nothing comes for free. But at the same time, loving people you found for free.
  • Neighbour’s kids play in your yard more than you or your kids do.
  • When you look at an abnormally bright sky and experience an abnormally hot day, and tell and bet with your friends with conviction that it’s going to be rain pretty bad that evening.
  • You can breath your own self.
  • When you find out of the world billboards.
  • You realize this is just another Indian who written the answer.
  • You’ve that extra born right to annoy your neighbours.
  • When you get to know you actually are in.
  • When you know there’s a lot other things remains unmentioned here. And that’s probably fair because one just can’t sum up 3,287,590 km² country with few lines.

To the outsiders,
Oh… have I tempted you enough to plan a visit to India yet?

अतिथिदेवो भव: (Atithi Devo Bhava) 🙂

Dear so-called-college-friends who are tired of the election,

It’s been a long road, hasn’t it? Truth be told, with all the mud-slinging and uncertainty from both sides of the aisle, it’s been a pretty exhausting election. Still, your posts of “Okay, the election is over, stop posting about politics” and “Ugh, I’m so sick of politics, so glad we don’t do this for another few years,” well, they make you sound ignorant. Is the next election in five years? Sure, you’re right about that much… but do you really think the only time to be political is during the election? Because I hate to tell you, but that’s not how it works.

The visibility of politics is definitely increased around this time of year, but if you think you can just vote once and that all your prayers will be answered by the time the next election rolls around? Well, you’re mistaken. You have to hold your politicians accountable. You have to keep track of the issues. If things aren’t changing, you have to work for that change. Call your political officials, protest, do whatever necessary.

We live in a society of instant gratification. If your demands aren’t met by the next election, you claim the system failed you. But you have to work the system too. Ignoring the fact that politicians are busy and can’t always achieve the change you wanted immediately, they’ve got a lot of ground to cover. You need to be persistent.

So next time you tell me you’re tired of politics and you can’t wait for it all to be over, expect to be verbally bitch slapped. Politics are never ever. They are in a constant state of evolution. Perhaps your failure to realize that is part of the reason you’re so disenchanted with the system. Believe me, it’s far from a perfect one, but it’s not completely lifeless yet. Don’t call me “anti nationalist” or “you always was kind of bad at being patriotic”. Elections are over. So does year. Welcome to reality.
Your move Politicians.
Sincerely,
Sneha

Dear free Voters,

It’s that time of year again. Don’t be an idiot. Get informed. I’m talking about more than just watching the debates. Follow through. If you did, you’d see how frequently some people was mistaken and/or outright lied in each debate.
It’s not hard to do.

There are tons of partisan websites that can help you sort through the issues. And if you don’t or you don’t vote, you lose the right to complain about the way your country is run. Oh, and I’ll kick you.
The more you know. That would be appreciated by me.
Sincerely, You’re the final judge,
Sneha

Dear Indian History,

While I’m really grateful for a day off in the middle of august, let’s talk about the man behind the myth. Mahatma Gandhi was not a very nice guy. He cheated on his father and sons. He reportedly plagiarized a good deal of work in school. But you know what? That’s okay. Well, okay, maybe it’s not okay, but it happened. Moving on. My point is, we shouldn’t be so desperate for heroes in Indian history. Mahatma Gandhi’s influence is undeniable and revolutionary, as an activist, but as a man, he was as deeply flawed as the next man or woman. He wasn’t perfect. The sooner we stop teaching these sanitized depictions of historical figures, the closer we can get to a national identity that embraces the good and the bad. After all, a wise sitcom once told me that if you take them both, then there you have… the facts of life. Okay, but enough about another humans. Seriously though, the idealization is getting out of control.

Mahatma Gandhi was not a bad man.  Gandhi is the world’s most famous hypocrite. Gandhi’s first son, Haridas, and how he was rejected by his own father. Who could argue with Gandhi the lawyer? You will never hear me saying that. But i said it now you see? He created a national dialogue in a meaningful and life-changing way. Was he a bad father? Eh, he probably could have been a little better… Was he a bad student? Well, plagiarism isn’t exactly great, either… But none of these do anything to make him less profound and impact-full. They just make him human. I’m just saying, historians. Maybe you should consider it.

It just pre-technology era which we still believing in. I’m still reeling from being lied to all my life about how awesome Christopher Columbus, Vasco da Gama was.
Sincerely still Indian,
Sneha

Dear cousins,

It had been awhile. You know how it is, with a family like ours. It’s hard to get everyone together at once. That’s probably my biggest regret, how long it’d been since we saw each other last. Since we met each other last. Honestly, it’s hard for me to write a letter like this. I remember after a friend of mine said, the grief counsellor recommended you write a letter to the person. Well, you guessed it, I’m not that religious girl so the exercise seemed kind of pointless to me, but I gave it a shot then and it doesn’t hurt to try again, right?

I guess the main thing I wanted to say was thank you. It’s always disheartening that such terrible things happen to bring out the good in people, but it’s always amazing to me when they do. My mom? When she called to tell me the news, I knew it wasn’t good because I could hear her sniffling. The number of years old and I’d never seen or even heard my mother cry. We were always one of those ordinary people emotionally repressed kind of families and it worked for us. Later that night, I saw my brother was calling. Again, not close, but mainly because we don’t know how to talk to each other, not some childhood resentment, memories or anything. When I picked up the phone, he simply told me, “I just heard the news about you all and I wanted to tell you while I still can that I love and care about you.” I was taken aback. This is the same guy who used to pin me down with his knees and twist my hands till I was almost in tears.

Honestly, I didn’t really know what to say, so I tried saying it back. Like I said, not a big fan of feelings or talking about them, so the word “love” kind of caught in my throat, but eventually, I got it. I’m so sorry that your father no longer with us, but what you were able to accomplish for those you left behind in your father’s death? It’s nothing short of a miracle, so thank you for that. I will be going to that brave to meet you and I have no idea what I will say when I’ll meet you. I mean, I don’t know if I should crack jokes to lighten up the mood or if i should show my sympathy-cum-empathy to make him feel awkward. I don’t know how I’d feel about it. Hoping that it wouldn’t be more awkward than this write up.
Sorry we’re not that close but my condolences with you,
Sneha

Dear American History,

While I’m not really grateful for a day off in the start of July which I’m clearly not getting as i’m in India, but let’s talk about the man behind the myth. Martin Luther King Jr. was not a very nice guy. He cheated on his wife. He reportedly plagiarized a good deal of his work in college. But ya know what? That’s okay. Well, okay, maybe it’s not okay, but it happened. Moving on. My point is, we shouldn’t be so desperate for heroes in American history. Martin Luther King, Jr.’s influence is undeniable and revolutionary, as an activist, but as a man, he was as deeply flawed as the next man or woman. He wasn’t perfect. The sooner we stop teaching these sanitized depictions of historical figures, the closer we can get to a national identity that embraces the good and the bad. After all, a wise sitcom once told me that if you take them both, then there you have… the facts of life. Seriously though, the idealization is getting out of control.

Martin Luther King, Jr. was not a bad man. You will never hear me saying that. he created a national dialogue in a meaningful and life-changing way. Was he a bad husband? He probably could have been a little better… Was he a bad student? Well, plagiarism isn’t exactly great, either… But none of these do anything to make him less profound and impact full. They just make him human. I’m just saying, historians. Maybe you should consider it. I’m still reeling from being lied to all my life about how awesome Christopher Columbus was.
Sincerely not at all any historian but my opinions (matters too!),
Sneha

Dear Black Coffee,

Why? Why do you do this to me? Did i behave with you like resist any day? No. Why do you hurt me so much when all I want to do is love you? Forget the fact that you’ve never registered as more than a drunk craving to me. I feel like drunk without any alcohol. Forget that I always seem to regret our time together. I gave you my all attention while i’m with you. It was good while it lasted…. then comes the day after.

I mean, did I mean nothing to you? Then why do you do this to me?! I’ll admit our relationship is less than perfect, but there’s no excuse that can justify the pure liquid evil being expelled from my body after our time together. It’s really nice to have the same rights that everyone else does, even if I don’t think it was any of your business to rule on in the first place,  but I’m glad it finally worked in my favor, how about that? But amidst all the celebrating yesterday, I got this weird vibe that everybody thought that we were done. You’ve been warned. Before. I know I’ve said this before, but I mean it this time.
We’re over.
Your Ex-lover,
Sneha